Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Wanting Dad's approval...

Thanks Holley Gerth at {in}courage for writing about "In God's Heart, I am.... CHOSEN" this week. You can read it HERE.

I too really wanted my dad's approval growing up - isn't that normal for us to be "Daddy's girls"?? I too had to fight for attention, first from older sisters, then a younger sister, and always work. Fast forward years, my mom's death to cancer, and he's dating - so how do you compete with that??

What I found (after a long road to hoe through all the wrong ways to live) was that my heart yearned for unconditional love...my heavenly Father's love...the ONLY love that could satisfy. Since then, I've learned that the reason I couldn't capture my daddy's heart wasn't MY problem, but his. I don't mean this to sound trite, but until I learned about sacrificial love for my Father, I had not realized how selfish human love was; even love within the family.

Fast forward to almost 30 years of marriage, and a lot of growth in my relationship with God (painful lessons, of course, but He is so faithful to bring fruit!!) and we have just read "Radical" - WOW. It is not for the faint hearted, but it really sheds light on our selfishness, how wrong teaching - even in church - makes us believe we are expecting rewards for our obedience to God's word...I'm not even doing it justice...it is so much more than that.

Now I feel as if I'm just beginning to grasp the way that I can truly love God back - in the way that honors Him and keeps me from feeding my selfish self.

SO, thanks Holley, for bringing up this topic...I can't wait to see what you fill the blank in next week!!



  1. Getting approval often takes HARD work and even then it is not guaranteed that we will receive it.

    I finally gave up seeking approval from people, because it is shaky at best.

    Approval from my Father God is desired, but it is awesome that I do not need to earn his acceptance. He loves me and approves of me regardless of how much I try to please Him. Perhaps it is best to simply do the most excellent way that I can, and live for him. It certainly takes all the sweat out of the trying to earn His love.

  2. That's so true A Joyful Noise!! I am SO grateful that my Heavenly Father loves me unconditionally!!
    I had some wise women counsel me during a rough phase with my earthly father...I was trying so hard to continue to be "his good daughter" - but realized - through them - that I could not ever meet the level I wanted to attain...oddly enough, because he manipulated the situation to keep me trying. Once I was able to do what God called me to do (be available to love, respect, serve), if my father didn't want me to do that/those things, it wasn't MY problem - it was HIS problem. That didn't make me a bad daughter at all (no matter what other people might think!).
    YES, getting to the point of security in Christ so that it didn't matter what others thought - that is real freedom!! What bondage it is trying to please people!!
    In my broken father I wanted to have a great relationship, and the closer I got to my heavenly father, the farther it took me from my earthly one. A real blessing in it all, was years later finding out how He protected my children from the hurtful things he had done to me. Praise God for His ability to put things in place, despite my own efforts....


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